Revealed!
4 Shocking Challenges About Your Attachment Style
and How It Is Holding You Back From The Strongest Relationships of Your Life...
and How It Is Holding You Back From The Strongest Relationships of Your Life...
and How It Is Holding You Back From The Strongest Relationships of Your Life...
Relationships Haven’t Always Been Easy For You. They can feel chaotic, confusing and overwhelming because you swing between being avoidant and anxious.
This can be incredibly painful for both you and your romantic partners – as depending on the relationship, your mental state can shift from: “I want you… come closer!” to “Slow down, not THAT close!”
If you’re dating someone more avoidant, you may become “needy,” insecure or anxious because you fear abandonment.
Or, on the other end of the spectrum, if you’re dating someone who is more anxiously attached, you might become more avoidant and even feel turned off when they get too close.
As a result, relationships can be very confusing, and overtime, can make you feel powerless to change the dynamic that you so very often find yourself in.
I feel you and understand how difficult this is for you. This is not your fault and you’re not broken.
I know this because I used to be a fearful avoidant…
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As a fearful avoidant, your superpower is your ability to read other people.
This skill – which is known as “depth of processing” – means you can be very empathic and in-tune with others.
But this also means that you might overanalyze your partner’s behavior, micro-expressions and body language – always scanning for signs of betrayal.
Given you’re always on the lookout, you can feel very uneasy (and even make accusations) when, for example, a love interest hasn’t responded to a text, causing you to wonder, “Do they still like me?”
This fear of being betrayed isn’t limited to romantic partners, you might also have trouble trusting your friends, family and colleagues, too.
For example, perhaps you never feel entirely safe in your friendships, causing you to secretly question whether they have your back… or even more painful… if they actually even like you.
You often feel like you need to be “more” to overcome your deep belief that you’re not enough.
As a result, love can feel very conditional, and cause you to set impossibly high standards for yourself because you believe you need to be perfect before you can be fully loved.
For example, you might believe that you need to be more confident, successful in your career and get up at 5am each morning to do 90-minutes of Ashtanga yoga before you’re ready for the right relationship… because then you’d be “perfect” and only then you’d be deserving of love.
You’re also prone to feeling excessive (and often unwarranted) guilt, which only reinforces your belief that something is wrong with you, and that you need to fix whatever “it” is before you can be fully loved.
You can be very giving but you may also have a hard time with partners who are too needy or dependent.
This is because you often fear being trapped or confined, leading you to push people away at times.
Love can sometimes feel like an exhausting dance as you step towards connection, love and intimacy – only to then take a step back because you feel smothered and need to regain your space.
On one hand – you deeply fear abandonment, but on the other, you fear losing yourself and being “swallowed” in a relationship if the other person’s needs become more important than your own.
Even though you may deeply care for your partner, sometimes you have an underlying feeling of dissatisfaction and doubt – almost a lingering feeling that there’s something better you’re missing out on, or questioning your future together.
So you often feel confused or have mixed feelings about your relationship, because you shift from being vulnerable to being distant, or from being invested to experiencing sudden doubts.
This can be very confusing and frustrating, and cause you to feel shame, guilt and even depression.
As a fearful avoidant, your superpower is your ability to read other people.
This skill – which is known as “depth of processing” – means you can be very empathic and in-tune with others.
But this also means that you might overanalyze your partner’s behavior, micro-expressions and body language – always scanning for signs of betrayal.
Given you’re always on the lookout, you can feel very uneasy (and even make accusations) when, for example, a love interest hasn’t responded to a text, causing you to wonder, “Do they still like me?”
This fear of being betrayed isn’t limited to romantic partners, you might also have trouble trusting your friends, family and colleagues, too.
For example, perhaps you never feel entirely safe in your friendships, causing you to secretly question whether they have your back… or even more painful… if they actually even like you.
You’re often very generous with your energy, time and support because of your empathetic nature.
But there’s also a subconscious reason why you give so freely…
Deep down, you feel like you need to earn love, connection and approval.
As a result, when you “over-give” – you can feel taken advantage of and that your needs, wants and opinions don’t really matter.
You may also struggle to set healthy boundaries, only to later feel angry because your boundaries have been violated as you’ve given too much… again.
This can lead to resentment and make you feel very unseen in your relationships, perpetuating common fearful avoidant beliefs such as “I’m unworthy,” “I’m unlovable,” and “I don’t matter.”
These beliefs can keep you in a state of high alert (otherwise known as hypervigilance) as you’re often on the lookout for someone to do you wrong (even those who love you).
You often feel like you need to be “more” to overcome your deep belief that you’re not enough.
As a result, love can feel very conditional, and cause you to set impossibly high standards for yourself because you believe you need to be perfect before you can be fully loved.
For example, you might believe that you need to be more confident, successful in your career and get up at 5am each morning to do 90-minutes of Ashtanga yoga before you’re ready for the right relationship… because then you’d be “perfect” and only then you’d be deserving of love.
You’re also prone to feeling excessive (and often unwarranted) guilt, which only reinforces your belief that something is wrong with you, and that you need to fix whatever “it” is before you can be fully loved.
You might be wondering, how did this all happen?
Well, typically a fearful avoidant personality arises through inconsistencies and trauma that occurred in childhood..
It’s possible that you came from a tumultuous household that may have been abusive in nature, either mentally, emotionally or physically.
You might have had a strong emotional connection between you and one caregiver, and a lot of emotional avoidance with another. You might have even felt very protective of one of your caregivers, or had quite an enmeshed relationship with them. Whereas your other caregiver was very hot and cold, and their love often felt very conditional.
As a result, you experienced a sense of inconsistency and polarity from a young age, which then subconsciously taught you to crave emotional connection, while instilling a sense of impending betrayal.
So the unpredictability you experienced as a child means that as an adult, you express polarized and mixed feelings while in relationships.
On one hand, you handle the vulnerability of others extremely well. But you may not be as eager to open up when it comes to your own fears or vulnerabilities.
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My system differs from many others because it’s the first integrated approach that also deals with other emotional issues that arise from attachment trauma, such as codependency, having a lack of boundaries, people pleasing, self-sabotage and trust issues.
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But more importantly, you’ll gain lifelong skills and an education in emotional mastery so you can build and maintain healthy relationships, communicate needs and boundaries, and process challenging emotions.
and emotional state because you’re no longer controlled by limiting thought patterns and painful emotions. Having healed myself and thousands of others using these techniques, I know that they work… as long as you do.
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In The Fearful Avoidant Reprogramming Course, You’ll Learn How To:
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Identify and express your needs and regulate your emotions in real-time (so no more losing days to brewing emotions or outbursts of resentment!)
Cultivate self-love and self-respect so you can have healthy boundaries with others and with yourself as you’re always taking yourself into consideration
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I’m a personal development expert, best-selling author and founder of The Personal Development School.
After completing my master’s degree and over 13 different certifications in a variety of disciplines such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnosis, Somatic Experiencing and more – I ran an extremely busy client-based practice for the better part of a decade.
Now I help clients across the globe transform their relationships and overcome lifelong emotional challenges through the Personal Development School.
Since co-creating the Personal Development School, and my years of research and client experience, I have become a leading authority on healing attachment trauma, and have built a thriving membership and online community, including over 10 million views on YouTube.
to finally break free from your attachment trauma and create the love, safety and connection that you deeply crave – and 100% deserve.
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“Joining PDS was the single best decision I made last year as it opened my eyes to the possibility that I could dramatically improve the quality of my relationships and that my past did not have to define my future. I learned about my attachment style, core wounds and personality needs and how these have been affecting the quality of my life currently. Thais gives clear instructions as to how you can reprogramme your subconscious mind, learn to communicate more effectively and excel in all 7 areas of your life to get rid of so many roadblocks that may be holding you back from living your best life. The PDS community is a truly supportive environment for personal growth and healing, my only regret is that I did not find all this out sooner as it has been truly life changing for me!”
Instead of feeling anxious or confused in your relationships, you feel calm, safe and at ease because you’re no longer being controlled by painful thoughts, fears and past experiences.
Feeling less alone – because no matter what life throws at you, you know there is one person who finally loves you unconditionally and who always has your back (Hint: And that’s you)
No longer losing days, weeks or even years analyzing failed or challenging relationships because you have the tools and confidence to create meaningful and joyful connections that inspire you
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Before Becoming A Member Of The Personal Development School
The monthly membership offers an integrated approach to healing your attachment style, your emotions and your relationships by targeting your subconscious mind.
Included with the monthly membership are courses on reprogramming each of the 4 attachment styles – but as you’ll discover, attachment trauma often causes other issues – such as codependency or people pleasing – to name a few – which require their own courses. So to equip you with the tools you need to best heal your attachment style, the membership gives you access to 45+ courses – giving you access to a “university” of emotional support.
Plus, included with the membership is access to weekly LIVE webinars and Q&A calls. As attachment trauma was formed as a result of the relationships in your early years – it can best be healed in relationship with others. So through our webinars, online community (forum), group chats and Facebook group – you’ll be supported by me and other members and receive a more integrated approach to healing.
We have found that out of the thousands of students who have become more securely attached, they have done so as a result of this integrated approach rather than taking single courses on their own.
This is deep, life-changing work, and I want to provide you with the best support possible.
Absolutely. If you feel that the Personal Development School is not for you, you can cancel your membership at any time – no questions asked.
We have a very high success rate of students becoming more securely attached and fulfilled in all areas after becoming members of the school, and I’m confident that if you become a member – you will too. But if for whatever reason it no longer feels like the right fit or time for you, you can cancel.
Yes, to help you make the best decision for you, we offer a no-questions asked 7-day money back guarantee – meaning there is absolutely no risk if you become a member today, and then later decide that the school is not for you.
The short answer is: I want to help as many people as I possibly can!
I’m incredibly passionate about sharing what’s become my life’s work and this integrated approach to healing attachment trauma because I know it works – as long as you do. I have developed a system and tools that are highly effective – and I want to make them as accessible as possible.
It’s important you feel confident in your decision to work with me.
I have added some testimonials on this page, but I urge you to do your own research by checking out the Personal Development School’s YouTube Channel to see thousands of user-generated reviews on the hundreds of videos I create to see if my style resonates with you.
No, and I never would. This is deep work that involves the subconscious mind and everyone’s process and journey is different. However, if you put in the course work, attend the webinars and keep showing up for yourself, I’m confident you’ll become more secure in your relationships – and in all areas of your life.
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